Relationships are a huge topic in college, and statistics show that you are more likely to meet your life long friends and suture spouse in college than anywhere else. In this blog, I am merely focusing on the dating aspect of relationships in the sense of what it can do with the friends of those who are “dating” or about to “date”. This one will be short because I have to study for a midterm, but I am in one of those moods where if I do not write it down, I will forget about it.
Friends probably know you better then you know yourself, or at least know an aspect of yourself better then you do. I remember learning in my human relations class back in high school that, “If your parents or your friends do not like the person you are with or about to date, you better listen to that, because they have your best interest at heart and know you better than anyone else.” Now I know some of you who are reading this may think that your friends might be over-reacting and that you are a grown person who can make up your own mind, and this may be true, and it also true that you are an individual and you can make your own decisions in the end; you do have free will after all. However, you should take into consideration what your friends say. If I was dating someone, and my friends did not approve, I would seriously think about why I was in the relationship. Think of it this way: would you rather have 1 spouse, or 2 friends? I for one would rather have friends. Friends will always be there for you, and you can count on them. You will always have friends. You may not, however, always have a spouse and/or significant other. I have been in relationships before, both good and bad, and I am not friends with some of those who I have dated, but I am still friends with those friends who were there with me during those times. Relationships are great, but friends are even better. Now I am not saying that one should never be in a romantic relationship. Hell, I miss being in one. But I would take being single for the rest of my life and keeping my friends, then losing all my friends for some person who may or may not stick with me to the end.